7 Ways to Boost Your Self Esteem
Low self esteem can trip you
up just when you need your self esteem is be at its best.
These 7 tips will help you feel better about yourself
1) Think back to when you did something new for the first
Learning something new is often accompanied by feelings of
nervousness, lack of self belief and high stress levels, all
of which are necessary parts of the learning process. The
next time you feel under-confident, remembering this will
remind you that it's perfectly normal - you're just
2) Do something you have been putting off.
Like writing or calling a friend, cleaning the house,
tidying the garden, fixing the car, organizing the bills,
making a tasty and healthy meal - anything that involved you
making a decision, then following through!
3) Do something you are good at.
Examples? How about swimming, running, dancing, cooking,
gardening, climbing, painting, writing�K If possible, it
should be something that holds your attention and requires
enough focus to get you into that state of 'flow' where you
forget about everything else. You will feel more competent,
accomplished and capable afterwards, great antidotes to low
And while you're at it, seriously consider doing something
like this at least once a week. People who experience 'flow'
regularly seem to be happier and healthier.
4) Stop thinking about yourself!
I know this sounds strange, but low self esteem is often
accompanied by too much focus on the self. Doing something
that absorbs you and holds your attention can quickly make
you feel better.
5) Get seriously relaxed.
If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence,
the first thing to do is to stop thinking and relax
properly. Some people do this by exercising, others by
involving themselves in something that occupies their mind.
However, being able to relax yourself when you want is a
fantastic life skill and so practicing self hypnosis,
meditation, or a physically-based relaxation technique such
as Tai Chi can be incredibly useful.
When you are properly relaxed, your brain is less emotional
and your memory for good events works better. A great
6) Remember all the things you have achieved.
This can be difficult at first, but after a while, you'll
develop a handy mental list of self-esteem boosting
memories. And if you're thinking "But I've never achieved
anything", I'm not talking about climbing Everest here.
Things like passing your driving test (despite being
nervous), passing exams (despite doubting that you would),
playing team sport, getting fit (even if you let it slip
later), saving money for something, trying to help someone
(even if it didn't work) and so on.
7) Remember that you could be wrong!
If you are feeling bad about yourself, remember that you way
you feel affects your thoughts, memory and behavior. So when
you feel bad, you will only remember the bad times, and will
tend to be pessimistic about yourself. This is where the tip
'Get Seriously Relaxed' comes in!
Once you have tried out a few of these, consider making them
a permanent part of your life. For most people, good self
esteem is not just a happy accident, it's a result of the
way they think and the things they do from day to day. Good