THREE Faces of Low Self-Esteem
Most of us have an image of
what low self-esteem looks like, but it is not always so easy
to recognize. Here are three common faces that low self-esteem
acts happy and successful, but is really
terrified of failure. Lives with the constant
fear that she or he will be "found out." Needs
continuous successes to maintain the mask of
positive self-esteem, which may lead to problems
with perfectionism, procrastination,
competition, and burn-out.
acts like the opinions or good will of others -
especially people who are important or powerful
- don't matter. Lives with constant anger about
not feeling "good enough." Continuously needs to
prove that others' judgments and criticisms
don't hurt, which may lead to problems like
blaming others excessively, breaking rules or
laws, or fighting authority.
acts helpless and unable to cope with the world
and waits for someone to come to the rescue.
Uses self-pity or indifference as a shield
against fear of taking responsibility for
changing his or her life. Looks constantly to
others for guidance, which can lead to such
problems as lacking assertiveness skills,
under-achievement, and excessive reliance on
others in relationships.