10 Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem
By Peter Dobler
Copyright 2010 Peter Dobler
Striving to improve our self esteem is on everybodys mind.
It doesnt matter if you actively pursue this goal or you
subconsciously working on improving your self esteem. The problem
with this is that you really dont know exactly what you
want to improve. Youre acting intuitively on external
Do you know how to improve your self esteem? Probably not. To
make it a little bit easier for you and to achieve your goals
quicker I put together 10 tips that you can utilize right away.
1. Build up your self-esteem. You must take an inventory. What
do you want to improve or change about the way you interact
with others? Try to make only one change at a time. Always check
you progress before making another change.
2. Celebrate your journey, not your destination. Learn to always
feel good about where you are now, and to exude self-confidence
about anywhere you might find yourself tomorrow.
3. Set clear goals for yourself before every interaction. Know
what you want. Think about how the people you will be meeting
can help you reach those goals. Then decide how to approach
each person accordingly. Apply this regularly and you will notice
4. Be proactive. Take the initiative. Be decisive. Let the other
person know exactly how he or she can help you. Proactive people
tent to be more successful in their career.
5. Treat each person you meet as if she or he is truly important.
(You'll be amazed how this works.)
6. Give a firm handshake; look the other person straight in
the eye. Practice both of these. Your handshake should be just
right. Not too firm and not too loose. Train yourself to notice
something you like or find attractive in the person.
7. Listen! Listen! Listen! Teach yourself to develop good listening
skills. Learn a way to remember the other person's name. If
in doubt simply ask for the name again 2 or 3 sentences into
8. Visibly respond to the other person. Smile, nod agreement,
and address him or her by name. Apply all you listening skills
to visibly respond. The body language is the most important
part of a conversation. Practice, practice, practice
9. Pay more attention to the other person than to yourself.
Are you responding to what may be going on in his or her life?
Don't filter out bad news. Put yourself in the other person's
shoes. Be caring.
10. Stay "in the moment." Don't mentally cut off the
other person. Don't reload while he or she is speaking. What
this means is that you need to focus on the other person 100%
during a conversation. Anything less is considered rude.
Next time you meet somebody new look out for these behaviors.
Put a mental checkmark on the each of the 10 tips and see how
well this person scored. Chances are that the person scored
very high if you tent to like her/him. On the contraire the
person probably scored low if you dont seem to connect.
The more you practice the more likely you will create a positive
aura which is commonly known as charisma. To step up to become
a charismatic personality it takes more than just these 10 tips.
Creating a positive aura will benefit you in every thing you
do. You will create a warmer ambience with your family. You
will be more successful in your career. Even while trying to
meet a partner of the opposite sex you will notice a difference
on how people perceive you.
Unfortunately a small article cant do justice on the wide
spectrum of creating a positive aura and developing a charismatic
personality. You will get the complete picture and step by step
explanations in Race Kales new book The Power of
About the Author
Peter Dobler is an active real estate investor and a successful
home business entrepreneur. Learn how to develop a charismatic
personality in this new book.