Who Do You Believe You Are?
By Dr Jill Ammon-Wexler
If I asked you to describe yourself, what image would you
paint? Another way to put this is: Who do you believe you
Your self-image is exactly what the term says an image
consisting of the mosaic of ideas you hold about your own
self. In short how you view your capabilities and skills,
your body, your mind and your personal potential.
While almost everyone agrees that it��s important to have a
good self-image, very few people seem to know how to acquire
one or even how they got the self-image they now have.
The History of Your Self Image
You began to form your self image and sense of ��worth�� as a
very young child. As you interacted with the important
people in your life, you received messages from them about
yourself their responses to your actions. These messages
settled into your impressionable subconscious mind.
As these messages collect, they seem to take on a life all
their own creating what will become your self image.
Then "belief" moves in, and sets those messages into mental
cement. In short we come to BELIEVE that we actually ARE
that subconscious collection of other people��s impressions
This process has continued even to this day in your life
but largely as a reinforcement of what you already believe
about your self.
Wow. Think about that for a moment. The interesting thing
about ��beliefs�� is that they are usually NOT open to
question or reason. We just BELIEVE them to be so.
So if you BELIEVE that you lack self-confidence, are a poor
public speaker, don��t know how to lead others, will never be
successful, don��t have the capability to create a good
relationship, and so on guess what. You will defend that
belief even to yourself!
This occurs because the intense emotional component attached
to a belief automatically causes our brain to resist any
attempt to question it with ��reason.��
And in the meantime your subconscious mind, which has a
photographic memory of every event that went into the making
of your self-concept beliefs, will make SURE your actions
reflect your beliefs.
How to Overhaul Your Self-Image
Your self image determines what you will (and will not)
achieve in your life. So if you are not who you want to be,
or are not living the life you want to live, the place to
start is with an overhaul of your self image. Anything else
will just create more of the same.
After over 30 years in the field of psychology, there is one
thing I can absolutely guarantee to you. That one this is
this: YOU ARE ABSOLUTELY *NOT* WHO YOU THINK YOU ARE!
Your self image does not mirror who you really are today.
You are NOT that collection of painful or limiting memories.
You are not that kid who was always told to speak only when
spoken to. You are not that ��clumsy�� Girl who fell a lot
only because she needed corrective glasses.
You are not ��stupid�� because you had more interest in
drawing than reading and math. You are not ��a failure��
because your first lemonade stand (or MLM business) was a
You are none of those things. You are *not* your past
history. So stop *believing* that old stuff and stop
acting as though it were true
Here��s a reminder of what you REALLY are:
1. You are Totally Unique
There is literally no one else like you. No one else thinks
like you, has your ideas, or does things the way you do
things. No one else has your unique set of talents and
abilities. Your brain is as unique as your fingerprints. No
one has your mind and memories. No one!
You are NOT ��ordinary.�� Actually no one is! Stand up and
carry yourself with dignity, because this IS your life. You
and only you live in your skin and it is your unique right
to decide how to best do that.
2. Your ��Limits�� are Not Real
It is today an accepted truth that we really create our own
reality. You have a choice to simply REACT to what is
happening to and around you or you can choose to RESPOND.
There��s a big difference between reacting and responding.
Reacting is an automatic knee-jerk response to life while
responding involves a conscious choice.
You can respond to your desire for a better self-image by
taking conscious action to replace those old beliefs. Simply
begin to challenge those old ��beliefs�� about yourself. Drag
them out of your dark subconscious into the sunlight of
3. You Have Unlimited Personal Power
Here��s something else I can guarantee: Most of those old
limiting beliefs about you will NOT hold up under conscious
examination! And once you begin to challenge this old stuff,
you will discover that what you thought were your ��limits��
do not exist.
The greatest personal power you have is the power to choose
your own thoughts.
Read that sentence again!
The late Earl Nightingale said: ��You become what you think.��
The truth of this is to powerful it is almost overwhelming.
You and you alone decide what you will think -- and what you
will believe your limits and potentials are. And you and you
alone will decide what to do with this awesome power.
The fact is: YOU can recreate your self, and build and
strengthen virtually any aspect of your being or area of
your life. Just choose to consciously BUILD YOUR OWN BELIEFS
and take action!
What I like to say is this: Just stand up and roar like a