It is not surprising that in
today's "got to look good" society, facial blushing causes
people a lot of pain. At its extremes, the embarrassment
from blushing can become so acute that the sufferer avoids
social contact. Talking to other people, whether in person
or even on the phone, is often associated with blushing.
Here are some things you can do about it.
(Please note: Here we are talking about the common social
blushing that nearly everyone experiences at some time.
There is a condition called hyperhidrosis (excessive
sweating) that is often treated with surgery. Normal
blushing does not require such an extreme solution.)
So Why Do We Blush?
The first thing to understand is that blushing is a
perfectly natural thing. It seems to be nature's way of
disclosing our true feelings about a situation. Some have
theorised that blushing is naturally attractive as it is
safer in evolutionary terms to have a partner that cannot
lie without detection. (Of course this is not fail-safe!)
Tips to Avoid Blushing
Relax Out of It
Blushing tends to get worse at first as people start to get
embarrassed about their embarrassment, creating a sort of
vicious circle. The more tense you get as you start to
blush, the more the blood is forced to the face. One trick
is, when you feel it coming on, to deliberately drop your
shoulders, relax your body, and push your stomach out. This
takes a bit of doing at first, so you might want to
Announce It, Don't Hide It
One thing that allows the circle to continue is the 'hiding'
of it by the blusher. I used to blush much more than I do
now (most people do from time to time). The way I dealt with
it, and a way that has helped clients of mine, was to
announce it when it was about to happen. "Here we go, I'm
going to go red now" or "Oh, I think I might blush".
Accept It, Don't Fight It
You need to shift your relationship to the blushing. At the
moment you are trying to hide it because you are embarrassed
about it. If you can work on relaxing about it, it will get
better. This will be helped by you accepting it as a current
part of yourself. You can try saying to yourself "At the
moment, I am a blusher". I t sounds strange, but if you
can bring yourself to like that part of you more, it is more
likely to go away!
Other Peoples' Opinions
Part of the embarrassment about blushing is caused by the
thought that others will see you as weak or silly. However,
everyone has had the experience of being embarrassed, and
it's not nice for anyone. Any decent person will be
sympathetic about it. Anyone who thinks less of you for it
is most probably not worth knowing anyway!
Retrain Your Body
Self hypnosis can help greatly as you can train your body to
relax as you feel the blushing coming on, or have the
thought that you might blush. If you do any relaxation
techniques such as yoga or meditation, once you are really
relaxed imagine the feeling of the blushing and have
yourself relax with it. Practice feeling accepting towards
yourself as you feel it coming on. You can imagine how you
would feel if you saw someone else suffering the same way,
and then feel that way towards yourself.